Millennials, especially those of us on the older end who were born in Reagan’s second term, are a generation of many dualities. Duality comes up in so much of my work and I always thought it was just because of a vast amount of personal circumstances and life events.
But it turns out my entire generation is riddled with them. Our lives have been colored by hope and doom alike, and we watched technology and communications advance at different speeds.
We saw the end of the old world and the last decade of relative stability and prosperity for many Americans…
I distinctly recall this conversation I had with this guy I slept with after a punk show in 2010.
“So, what’s your plans?” This was the exact conversation I wanted to avoid. I somehow woke up in some bumblefuck place in Suffolk County, a ways off from my safe and solitary dumpy domicile in The Bronx. Being a grad student broker than Mike Pence after Biden’s inauguration, and the fact that it would take a couple years before rideshare apps would become de rigeur, I unfortunately had to depend on this lamentable one-shot deal for a ride back to the…
Dear Modern Parent,
Your content keeps popping up in my Medium feed despite my adamantly not wanting kids. I don’t know why, but I guess it’s because there’s a lot of pandemic-related content tying with parenting plus it’s an inherently feminist issue so I presume that’s why Medium’s algorithmic gremlins keep sending you my way. I’m not the intended audience, but those titles definitely make me want to click.
Thing is, those titles confirm something I’ve suspected a long time and that I feel is a grave injustice: more people regret having children than NOT having them.
Respectability politics is a trap.
Being modest doesn't stop men from sexualizing us. Neither does abstaining from casual sex. They're always going to find a way to say "we asked for it".
Modesty and curling inwards on ourselves does not stop patriarchy.
It's a trap: attempts to appease the oppressors, who will NEVER be pleased, only make the oppressed fight among ourselves.
Day after day, the invites pile up in my personal and business inboxes alongside the infinite stream that is my Twitter feed.
Come to the virtual version of this conference you otherwise would’ve traveled to attend!
Join this Twitch stream!
There’s an important civic organizing meeting on Zoom, please RSVP!
Come check out my friend’s Discord server!
And let me be clear, I feel bad about it.
I want to participate in the causes I care about, like amphibian conservation and leftist fiscal policy advocacy, plus there’s a great deal of important electoral work I should get involved at the…
There is much discourse about Marilyn Manson’s long history of sexual abuse in the entertainment and media worlds and his own fans.
Countless writers delved into his history better than I could, I’d highly recommend this piece by Shannon Ashley about how he basically admitted he was a serial abuser for decades and no one did anything about it. It was just swept under the red carpet. Let’s face it, CAA suddenly dropping him had more to do with covering their asses than actually doing justice to the numerous women who’ve come forward in addition to Evan Rachel Wood.
So there’s a Sex and the City reboot coming sans the one character who was actually sexually adventurous compared to the rest of the main cast.
As one would expect, the take machine has been a-churning about reboot culture, the numerous flaws in the show’s original run, and how it both revolutionized the way women discussed sex yet was still quite conservative. I mean, come on: Carrie Bradshaw addressed any kind of sexual activity that wasn’t hetero and vanilla with the same statecraft as The Iron Sheik doling out some Monday Motivation on Twitter.
But as someone who’s now been…
Ever since lockdown began that fateful day 10 months ago, this lost year has had millions of us feeling lonely, anguished, frustrated, angry, grieving, you name it. And you got every right to feel that way.
When it comes to how single people, particularly single people living alone, are dealing with the pandemic, we’re often discussed in this piteous manner. …
In a world where we have seemingly endless options for everything from sandwiches to gender expression, single women [namely, cisgender women who primarily date men] seem to be given just two of them when it comes to relationship status: you’re either in this constant state of despondence and desperation as a result of not having a permanent guy in your life, or YAS QUEEN you don’t ever need a man at all, you never want to bother with that!
If you’re happy and single, so many people take it to mean that you don’t want a relationship. If you’re unhappy…
Perhaps you may think it’s not my place to comment on this given that I don’t have or want kids, and have gone out of my way to avoid becoming a mom. (Except a toad mom, that is. Let’s dish about the best toad litter and bug supplements for our amphibious babies, and kvell about the cute things they do.)
But as someone who’s an inadvertent observer in this whole mess of confused, blithering meat sacks that we dub a society, I cannot help but notice these things.
Because when it comes to motherhood is it an idea, a concept…