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Making and getting lots of phone calls was a raison d’etre for millions of Millennial girls in particular, but once we hit our thirties, the phone became the equivalent of junk mail. Did this have unintended consequences?

young woman in white-blonde wig wearing an orange jacket talking on a hot pink corded phone on dusty rose background
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Sex and the City’s Samantha Jones is treated by the media crit community as this virtually satirical character who’s been touted as unrealistic by viewers, particularly younger viewers coming across the show for the first time. But as my forties loom closer, I find her MORE realistic and relatable than ever before.

Still of Kim Cattrall as Samantha Jones in a red dress and sexy, confident pose from Sex and the City’s fourth season
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A single woman takes an intermission from the travails of life and an impending massive change, in a city she’s always loved but won’t commit to.

Chicago buildings and street light on a gray day
Chicago looking particularly majestic on a blustery day. This photo, and all others in this piece, were taken by me.


The indie hit farming sim with tons of sidequests and things to do actually has something to teach us: romance can be an option without being a be-all end-all.

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Not wanting to be a parent is valid enough, even in the best of circumstances. But have you thought about how many sacrifices you’ve made without asking, and now are expected to make even MORE?

Sad woman in a dusty blue shirt with auburn hair covering most of her face, arms crossed, on the beach on a blustery day
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We as a society talk a lot about the factors that comprise a miserable relationship. How about we look at what makes them happy?

Back view of an old white man and woman holding each other outside a lakeside cabin with depth of field against the trees
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We live in a violent culture. Are we seriously still scapegoating video games decades after game devs had to testify in front of Congress?

Still of former Senator and failed VP candidate Joe Lieberman from the infamous 1993 Congressional hearing on video game violence, waving a console gun shaped like a pistol. We’ve had an armed insurrection in this very building since, plus a deadly pandemic, yet games are still being blamed for society’s ills.


Are they truly dead, or do they just take on a new form?

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The tragic death, and assumed murder, of influencer Gabby Petito has gotten people talking about how the media treats missing and murdered women and how domestic violence is systemically downplayed. But there’s more to it than that.

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I was 16 and scared the first time it happened. When it happened again almost a decade later, I pondered if there was something wrong with me.

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Rachel Presser

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